Rebuilding Your Circle - Part 5
Hello beautiful friends!
Over the past 5 weeks, "Wellness Insights" has been focused on exploring a common challenge - trying to rebuild your social network after a midlife transition. This series is a guide for those whose primary social network has been disrupted, leaving you feeling lost, or at least intimidated about moving forward. Whether you find yourself with an empty nest, settling into retirement, or suddenly single in midlife, rebuilding a network where you feel like you belong is essential for your long-term health and happiness. If you missed previous editions please visit my website where my "Wellness Insights" are posted. https://rhendahodnett.com/blog.
In Part 5 we are going to step up our game once more. Last week we tried a "soft re-entry" but this week we move into strategic outreach, and we begin by reconnecting with old friends - without sounding or feeling desperate.
Let's begin by brainstorming a list of 5-10 friends or acquaintances from your past that you have a genuine interest in reconnecting with. Note how long it has been since you last spoke and what you liked about each relationship. Was it a hobby or interest you shared? Was this someone that you admired for their outgoing, friendly demeanor? Or maybe it was the friend that was always up for a new adventure. Enjoy the process of reminiscing those old relationships.
Now think about what may have changed since you last connected? Has your friend moved, recently retired, or had their own major life transition? Just maybe one of these friends from the past is in the same situation as you are and would love to reconnect!
Pick 1 or 2 from the list and consider this approach to reach out:
For recent connections (within 2 years): "Hi [Name], I've been thinking about you and wondering how you're doing with [specific thing you remember about their life]. I'd love to catch up if you're up for it."
For major life transition contexts: "Hi [Name], I'm navigating some big changes in my life and find myself wanting to reconnect with people who've mattered to me. Would you be interested in catching up over coffee/phone?"
One important aspect of the work I do with clients in my program is helping them practice these conversations, and manage their expectations. Before you dial that number or hit the send button, take some time to put yourself in the right mindset.
Not everyone will respond, and that's okay
Focus on the people who do respond positively
Plan what you'll do if someone suggests getting together
Taking this first step to reach out can be hard, but regardless of the initial outcome, you will have grown; you will have taken another step on this new path of life. Authentic outreach feels vulnerable but creates space for genuine reconnection.
Next week in Part 6 of 7 we take another big step forward by exploring new territory and ways to meet new friends. I will also be unveiling how you can join a small group that I will lead through this 7 step process with intensive support, practice, and accountability - the three elements that will move you from surviving to thriving! Until then, give yourself grace, and share this with a friend who may benefit.
