Rebuilding Your Circle - Part 3
Hi there friends -
In today's edition of "Wellness Insights" we are previewing Part 3 of "Rebuilding Your Circle" a guide for those who have lost their primary social network. Whether you find yourself with an empty nest, settling into retirement, or suddenly single in midlife, rebuilding a network where you feel like you belong is essential for your long-term health and happiness. If you missed previous editions please visit my website where my "Wellness Insights" are posted. https://rhendahodnett.com/blog
When it comes to rebuilding your social network, especially in midlife and beyond, quality over quantityis the key. At this stage of life our emphasis shifts to valuing more genuine and meaningful connections rather than focusing on the number of connections. Stay open to the fact that this often requires honing our own relationship skills. Empathy, vulnerability, and extending grace to others are qualities that can serve us well as we deepen relationships.
Let's focus on the 3 types of connections you need most at this stage. First, and most importantly, you need an inner circle. Having 2-3 close confidants that you can count on daily or weekly for emotional support is vital to your health and happiness. Traditional or extended family members sometime fill this role, but not always. A small circle of people that you can reach out and touch, who are actually available to you when you need them is what matters.
Next is what can be thought of as "an activity circle." This includes people who share your interests; those who enjoy the same types of activities that you do. It's those 5-8 people that come to mind when you want to go out to dinner or a movie. It's the ones that operate at the same pace as you on a shopping or fishing trip. It's a friendship circle where you can be comfortable and enjoy life.
Finally, it's important to feel a sense of belonging within your broader community. Think of your neighborhood, church, or civic organizations that give you a sense of being grounded or rooted within the community. Even though you may only engage with these people occasionally, they give you a sense of belonging and play an important role in reinforcing your identity.
Take some time to reflect on each of these types of connections. Draw 3 circles, one inside the others and label them inner, activity, community. What qualities do you want in these relationships? List current or potential friends that come to mind within each circle. How much time and effort will be required to develop and nurture each of these relationships? What kind of person do you want to show up as in each of these relationships?
Which type of relationship needs your attention most at this time? Where do you feel a void, and are most motivated to begin?
This is a snippet of the work I do with my clients to dig deep and truly create a network that is fulfilling; one that nourishes your soul and brings a deep sense of peace, love and satisfaction.
Next week in Part 4 we shift gears from reflection to action, starting with a "soft re-entry". Until then, give yourself grace, and share this with a friend who may benefit.
Rhenda
BTW - if you are ready to begin the journey of rebuilding your social network with support and accountability, my 1:1 coaching may be just what you are looking for. Schedule a brief, complimentary call with me to learn more. https://calendly.com/rhenda-hodnett/discovery-call
